If you look back on life, we have the uncanny ability to pinpoint pivotal, life-changing moments. A first kiss. A chance meeting with an amazing mentor. A speaking gig that had you weak in the knees.
In those moments, you became a more expanded version of yourself. You felt new possibilities emerge. You broke through fear and self-imposed boundaries.
Five years ago while sitting cross-legged on the floor of Gabby Bernstein’s living room, my life was forever changed. I was fortunate to be part of her group coaching program at the time and was struggling with some serious fear about my business. I was straight up anxious about it all. of. the. time. Worries about how low my website traffic was, how few subscribers I had, and the whole comparing and despairing conversation was a constant in my head.
But that night everything shifted. As I sat perched on my pillow surrounded by other awesome women searching for their life purpose, Gabby read a quote from A Course in Miracles.
“Those who are certain of the outcome can afford to wait, and to wait without anxiety.”
I wrote it down. And read it over and over again. The earth moved. My eyes widened. My heart filled with love. I realized I had been going about everything all wrong. The outcome I wanted was a booming business, serious success, and a wide audience. But I was no where near believing that was absolutely going to happen.
From that moment forward, I replaced “I have no idea what I’m doing” with “I know this is what I’m meant to do and the success will come.” My only job became carrying certainty and patience with me no matter what.
The result? You’re looking at it. I have arrived at where I always wanted to be in my business because of a deep faith in myself and my deepest desires.
Recently, I was talking to my friend Ishita about dating. How it hasn’t been fun. How I’m feeling totally anxious about it. How I often find myself thinking “Are you my husband?” whenever I make eye contact with a cute guy on the subway. I’m not kidding.
I told her how much I wished I could just let go and approach it the same way I approach my career.. Unattached. Certain of the outcome. Waiting patiently.
Light bulb. “Those who are certain of the outcome can afford to wait, and wait without anxiety.”
Of course! If I really knew the love of my life was on his way, I wouldn’t be so freaked out about it, spinning my crazy wheels, and searching for him in line at the coffee shop or while sipping on my green smoothie at Organic Avenue.
Those 16 words have given me so much ease. They’ve supported my faith and trust in the Universe. And they’ve been right all along.
So the next time you find yourself trying to control the outcome of your job, your relationship, or your health, practice being certain of the outcome you wish for. Feel it in your body and know that it is coming. You just have to be patient and fiercely believe until it arrives.