October 4, 2015

7 Ways to Fall Crazy in Love with Yourself

Fall In Love With Yourself

“Falling in love” usually involves another person. Someone to snuggle with, shower with affection, and treat with serious respect. The idea of falling in love with ourselves–that’s usually hard to wrap our heads around. We think, “why the heck would I want to fall in love with me?”

The truth is, your relationship with yourself is the most important. Not in a selfish way, but in a healthy way. Too often, we look at who we are and pick ourselves apart.

“My waist isn’t thin enough.”
“I’m a failure for not making 6 figures.”
“Being single means I’m 100% undesirable.”

Holy inner mean girl!

It’s time to change all of this and start recognizing why you are awesome and worthy of your own approval and love. Developing a practice around this will not only make you feel amazing, but empower you to recover from low points in life with clarity and ease.

I’ve found that when I feel like crap, when my body has been the most sick and when I am bombarded with the most self-deprecating thoughts, the only thing to pull me up and out is drenching myself in self-love.

If you still feel confused or lost on where to start with your own self-love conversation, don’t worry; I’ve put together a list to help you get started.

  1. Create a self-love ritual.
    Turn off the TV and unplug from social media for 15 minutes to get centered while self-pampering. My favorite way to do this is to moisturize my skin with intention. As I massage my feet I thank them for getting me to where I need to go; as I moisturize my hands I love them for all the transactions and introductions they’ve helped me with throughout my life.
  2. Build a precious community.
    As much as we would like to think we can, we can’t do everything ourselves. You need the support and love from people around you to stay motivated and on track–something I like to call a Love Entourage. Positive energy is contagious, so whether you’re building a network or planning to go to a fun event, it’s always important to have a community you value around you regularly.
  3. Know that your body is a loving vessel.
    Treating your body like a loving vessel will not only boost your self-love, but also your energy. Be intentional about what you put into your body, not only because you want to look good but because you want to feel good. Feeding your body nutrient-rich foods will have you oozing love out of every pore.
  4. Explore your spirituality.
    Faith is the foundation for self-love, no matter what you believe. Believing in something opens up your soul to the beauty of belief and trust. It will build your intuition and help you make decisions based on your gut. When you explore your spirituality it will also take you on a journey to learning things about yourself and those new thoughts, feelings, passions, and raw emotions will make you appreciate yourself for being authentically you.
  5. Do something you’re good at.
    If this isn’t the ultimate self-esteem booster, I don’t know what is! Self-esteem and self-love often go hand in hand, and participating in a hobby you’re good at will not only boost your endorphins, but will bring out the best version of you. If you love to cook, then cook! If you love to run, then grab those sneakers, head outside and run for your life.
  6. Find your happy place.
    Think of a place that makes it simple to just be. That means being able to sit quietly and embrace the here and now. Not thinking about what’s due at work or what bills need to be paid, you owe this happy place to yourself. Self-love is all about connecting with yourself, and one of the easiest places to do that is your happy place.
  7. Build your letting go muscle.
    We’re constantly holding on to things in our past, and it can tend to weigh heavy on our souls and even give us low self-esteem. The more blocks we clear, the more we can really live big in the area of self-love. Although we may do this as a way to protect ourselves from hurting, it’s really only holding us back from moving forward to reaching optimal self-acceptance and loving who we are.

These 7 practices have literally saved me from countless downward spirals and I know they will do the same for you. In the comments below, I’d love to hear if you have any self-care practices that give you a boost or if you don’t, which of the tips above resonated most with you? Please share!

P.S. Soul Camp, the adult sleepaway for the soul, is heading to California October 28-31 and I LOVED Soul Camp East so much that I am now teaching at Soul Camp West! This mind/body/spirit BURST of joy is an immersive experience unlike anything you’ve experienced before. If you have ever wondered what it would be like to live in a village of conscious people digging deep and having meaningful conversations… spending your days bouncing from restorative yoga to energy work to chakra clearing to angel breath healing to intenSati and ending the night in a kayak on the lake under the stars… then this is the experience for you. And if this entire concept scares you, perhaps it’s exactly what you need. Visit www.soul.camp/west to learn more and use code NITIKASOUL for a 20% discount off tickets! Hope to see you there sweet things!

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Comments

  • Jasmine

    Hi Nitika!! I love this post because the area of self love is something I’ve been trying to improve on for years now! I’ve been through a lot of painful things and sometimes I don’t really love myself! I feel unworthy ! However , I don’t wanna feel this way! I want to feel sexy, wanted and desired! Your article has made me see that this is possible and I can’t wait to get started!!

    Thanks so much!
    Xoxo

    • Nitika

      Aww thanks so much Jasmine! That means the world to me. I am THRILLED to hear that this was helpful. You got this beauty!!! Lots of love xoxo

  • RaVal

    That inner mean girl has got to go. Thanks for sharing this????

  • Elizabeth

    Great post! Love what you said about positive energy…it really is contagious!

    • Nitika

      YES! It’s super contagious!! Lots of love xx

  • Michele Morales

    LOVED this post Nitika! While I would certainly say that I love myself, I find that I neglect myself as well – taking care of everyone else. The two points that helped me the most were create a self-love ritual and do something you’re good at. Setting aside time to just focus on pampering myself is not part of my daily routine and I can so see how it would be useful. I also need to plan more time to do things I enjoy and just have fun with myself. Thanks for the tips as always!

    • Nitika

      Oh yes this is so juicy – love it!! I am thrilled you got so much out of the article too, thanks for sharing Michele!! Lots of love xoxo

  • Estelle

    I was intrigued by the title. Quite the hook…to fall in love with myself. Thank you. I truly enjoyed this piece ♡

    • Nitika

      Thanks so much Estelle, it’s lovely to have you here and I am glad you liked the blog! Lots of love xx

  • Lauren Burkitt

    Wow, what a beautiful post! I think we all need to take the time to read this one 🙂 So happy you shared, thank you!

    • Lauren Burkitt

      This is my first time on your blog, I’m so happy that I came across it. I was just reading through your about page and it brought me to tears. “I didn’t really have a true groups of friends until I was 27.” I just turned 27 and I feel like I am finally starting to attract true friends in my life. What a wonderful feeling. Your work is very inspiring and I am thrilled and excited to follow along.

      • Nitika

        I am SO happy that you’re here, too Lauren. I can’t wait to get to know you better through this blog + beyond. Sending lots of love your way xo

    • Nitika

      Thanks sweet thing! xo

  • Joslynn forte- briggs

    Great info, and positive thoughts and energy, love it, and Thankyou sistah!

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